Having trouble comprehending the gravity of having a child? The largeness of it? The overwhelming magnitude of it all? Start your registry. Then let’s talk.
Yes, it’s a bit of a wakeup call. All that stuff. The bottles, the bottle warmer, the car seat, the infant converter, the stroller, the crib, the humidifier, the baby monitor, diapers, diaper bags, and endlessly on into Buy Buy Baby oblivion.
Seriously, though. Walking into Buy Buy Baby is like entering another universe. The automatic doors shut behind you and the grandness of it renders you momentarily immobile. Like a vast, infinite skyline. Like the majestic breadth of the Grand Canyon. Only its filled with stuff. Floor to ceiling with stuff. You suddenly realize you’re in over your head. And you may not make it out alive.
Of course, it’s all super exciting, too. Because up until this point, all you’ve done is imagine. You’ve read, researched, and imagined. But now there are tangible things to feel and touch. Little onesies she’ll one day wear. A teether she’ll soon be chewing. It makes it all the more real.
B and I got the little scanner thing and started walking the store with our list. It was fun consulting each other about certain items. Weighing the pros and cons. The price points and color ways. It will definitely make clear how closely your visions for the child align with one another. Luckily, ours were about the same. So that part was easy enough.
Be forewarned, though. It’s exhausting. There’s a lot to consider and decide upon. Things that are hard to foresee. The brand of the bottle you’ll use. The type of pacifier. Do we need a humidifier? What model baby monitor? Is this carseat compatible with this stroller? Every little thing takes consideration.
After a while, your patience is tested. Remember that feeling you used to get as child when you spent too long in a grocery store with your mom? Or followed her around too long in a department store? Your legs give out from sheer impatience and you want to scream. It’s like that.
B and I gave it all we had. But for the sake of our relationship, we threw the towel in after a few hours. There’s only so much you can take. We decided to do more research at home, solidify some things, and come back another day. This proved to be a good plan. We were able to add many items online, and when we returned to the store days later, we were rested, researched, and ready.
I’m not sure if our experience was uncommon or if the process is just overwhelming by nature. I’d be lying to you if I said we were registry experts by any means. But in retrospect, I’d do a few things differently, so I’ll offer those suggestions to you now:
DIVIDE & CONQUER. There’ll be certain things you don’t really care about, and certain things you really care about. Find out what those things are in advance and divi them up. Attack on multiple fronts. They’ll never see it coming.
RESEARCH. Do as much as you can beforehand. Choose color schemes. Pick out specific models of things. It’s tricky, because often you’ll want to see things in person before making a decision. At least narrow certain items down to a few brands or models. It’ll save time and reduce your in-store headache.
PLAN TWO TRIPS. Trust me. You’re gonna forget something. Or you’ll tap out the first trip like we did. Plan to go twice. At least.
STAY ORGANIZED. It’s really easy to let the chaos of the situation takeover. Prepare a battle plan and stick to it. Resist the temptation to wander off and get sidetracked.
EAT. Cause we all know what hangry feels like. Eat a big meal beforehand and take some coffee to-go. You’ll need it.
THE INTERNET IS YOUR FRIEND. Most places offer online registry options. B and I chose to do a hybrid. Our first time around in the physical store, we made a list of items that we wanted to research further. We conducted that research when we got home and added the items to our registry online.
Was your registry experience similar? Different? Have any advice? Leave your thoughts in the comments below.